奶奶的饺子

奶奶走了,一直到现在我还觉得这不是真的,感觉奶奶只是出了远门。

一想到团圆,我脑子里的画面就是一家人围在一起聊天吃饺子。我吃过这么多饺子,只有奶奶的韭菜猪肉饺子是最好吃。从和面,到拌馅,我们家都有一套自己的窍门。尤其是那个饺子馅,无论是肥瘦肉搭配的比例,还是韭菜生熟以及咸淡程度都可以堪称完美。

每到春节或者是周末,我和爸爸回奶奶家的时候,包饺子基本上就是一个固定项目。包饺子的时候大家都有自己的分工,每个岗位都有确定的人员配置。到我这个辈份的孩子基本上就只有看和吃的份。有时候我也上去试着擀个皮,包几个饺子,但是很快就在长辈们的笑声中败下阵来。有时候下饺子时会听见姑姑说:饺子有个破的,是不是吉吉包的?惭愧啊!

饺子出来以后,奶奶经常会问吃第一个饺子的人咸淡怎么样,我吃第一个的时候都还是正烫的时候,经常是是嘴里含着半块还没下咽的热饺子,一边往外吐热气一边说:正好,正好。奶奶的饺子当然咸淡都是正好的。然后一家人就围绕在电视机前一边评论各种话题,一边吃饺子。有时候还有几个糖馅的饺子,吃到后感觉自己真是太幸福了。

仅仅是吃饱喝足了还不够,每次从奶奶家回来,奶奶还会给我打包一袋熟饺子。晚上回家,坐在老爸的摩托车后边,怀里揣着一袋热饺子,现在想想那时候自己好幸福。

关于创业股权Equity

以前和朋友一起尝试过”创业“,现在想想只不过是小打小闹而已。去年我开始和我meetup里一个人开始做他的idea,才发现startup里除去写代码,还有很多东西要应付。

其中最烦的恐怕就是法律文档。像是分股权(equity,不知道中文名是不是zhe ge)这种事情,我一般一开始都不好意思提这个,而且觉得八字还没一撇,谈这些还早。我这个搭档很早就和我提出来了我们的比例,一开始是口头,在他找到一家愿意投资开发的公司后写到了协议里。让人心里有底。但是说实话一般创业者很少有法律背景,创业公司也比较特殊,有很多特殊名词没接触过就连想都想不到的。在这里我告诉你两个初期股权分配必须用到的概念。

  • equity vesting
  • cliffs

如果你找到了天使投资人,那么恭喜!你可能还会用到另外两个

  • acceleration
  • exits

这里有两个比较好的链接可以帮助你理解上面几个名词:
Equity basics: vesting, cliffs, acceleration, and exits
谈创业公司的股权“Vesting”

FW: What is the biggest lie society taught you to believe?

I really loved this answer and I want to share it to everyone.

Answer by Keinosuke Johan Miyanaga:

To be happy, I need more. To get more, I need to get rich. To get rich, I need a job. That is by far the biggest lie.

Get a job.

If we were all focused on creating jobs, we wouldn’t be so busy helping our employers get rich. If you need one, by all means get one. They can forever be great stepping stones. But we should always work towards a cause and be emotionally invested. Exchanging your time for only money is what ultimately devalues your time and you in general. It is exploitation of your most valuable resource. We shouldn’t get comfortable in any job. Our goal should always be to eventually be in a position to create more of them. All employers want are workers that are complacent. However, complacency is against human nature and a fulfilling life. What we need is growth. If you are blessed to be capable enough, don’t get a job. Create one, starting with yourself.

You need more.

No I don’t. Stop trying to sell me something. It would be nice to have a Ferrari, but knowing I have exactly what I need is nicer. Before having more, what we need is good honest healthcare, to be able to properly educate our children, and to know that people have your back in times of need or emergency. What we really need more of is love, conversation, and peace. Society ruins all of these things the moment it gives them prices and turns them into markets. Why must we compete to get by when we must cooperate to get along? What we need more of is each other.

Get Rich

And by rich, I mean financially. All we have to do is get rich then happiness is a given. You are successful if you are rich. Women will flock to you if you are rich. Your friends will love you if you are rich. Your parents will be proud of you if you are rich. The world is your oyster if you are rich. But then why, oh why, are so many rich people so openly miserable? Why are they so busy? Why do lottery winners end up bankrupt? Why aren’t those born into money always giddy? We are taught that money is the solution to all of our problems, but what if money is our biggest problem? What we need isn’t a fatter wallet. What we need is a bigger heart.

To be happy, I need more. To get more, I need to get rich. To get rich, I need a job. That is by far the biggest lie.

A life long pursuit of money leads to a life exchanged for shiny objects and a hollow sense of self accomplishment. It is an inward spiral of self indulgence and self devaluation that ends in a big fat zero.

Part II — The Best Kept Secret (with pictures)

Society taught me this was the formula for happiness:

This is what happens inside you:

By doing as we are told and taking from others, we expect others to take from us also. We become defensive of our possessions as well as our emotions. And we end up alone. You expect very little from other people, because you just assume it’s everyone for themselves. The truth to this is the sad part.

What if we have it all backwards?

In reality, no one survives alone. Every one of us arrived here because of two people consummating. We are then fed, nurtured, and educated until we can make it on our own. Even then, we are dependent on family and friends. And as a member of society, we are dependent on communities, economies, and social services. We need our cars to work, our money to be safe, and our bodies to be healthy.

Is this all in exchange for money? Or is it people caring for people? I’d like to think it’s the latter. At least, I’d like to think it started that way. And if it’s not that way now, I think we should fix it.

Everything you depend on others depend on also, and what it boils down to is this:

If everyone cared for everyone, everyone would care for you.

We all have our priorities and you may not be number one, but last I checked everyone was a lot of people.

What if we have it all backwards?

Amazingly, what you give isn’t taken away from you. That is also one of the special properties of love. It’s shared, not given or taken, and others will feel it when they receive it. Through others, you become a fountain of prosperity.

When success is defined by the amount of people you help, success makes you bigger. Your expectations for others naturally rises also, along with expectations for what we can do for each other, for yourself, and ultimately what you can do for yourself.

The Evidence

You don’t have to take it from me. I’m just repeating what others have said, and describing what others have done.

 

“Only a life lived for others is a life worth living”
Albert Einstein.

Which will it be:

Sure, there is nothing wrong with that. Good job. Take it easy. RIP.

Or,

From the top, an Apple store with notes to Steve Jobs, a fan mourning the loss of Michael Jackson, and the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial. One is an entrepreneur, one is an entertainer, one is an activist. Depending on who you ask, one is an a-hole, one is a kook, one is a disobedient baptist minister. Who cares? Everyone.

This isn’t about entrepreneurship. You don’t need to think big or be a genius or be rich already. This isn’t about charity either. If you’re giving away stuff you took away, you are just being Robin Hood, which is awesome, but not what I am getting at. It all begins when you recognize that ultimately your preservation depends on the preservation of the people around you. By shifting your focus on those around you, you make the switch from selfish to selfless.

You can start with a lemonade stand, or mowing the lawn for your neighbors. You can open a coffee shop or a restaurant or a small graphic design studio. You can start with a painting or a song or a book. Create something and give it to people. What people get might be coffee, it might be a laugh, it might be an iPad, it might be the right to vote. And if it is valuable, you should sell it. In fact, how much someone pays is a great measure of the value you created. The key is to serve a need — anything besides the need for money, or the need for your time. It really is that simple.

By helping others prosper, you will prosper also. The reward isn’t net worth, but self worth. When your self worth increases in the eyes of others, you’ve made it. And what a coincidence, if you do it right, it’ll be hard not to make a buck or two along the way. Your net worth will catch up with your self worth at varying degrees, but it never works the other way around. You don’t want to find this out the hard way.

When people buy your time, they are paying you despite you being replaceable. You become a disposable commodity. When people are buying awesomeness, they are paying you because you are irreplaceable. You become an indispensable part of their lives. They will want you to have their money.

But you’re not doing it for money anyway. So you are glad to reinvest in your cause and in your awesomeness and it all keeps growing — they keep growing, you keep growing, we keep growing. To be at the center of all this is a great life, at any scale.

Don’t let society take advantage of you. Take advantage of what is good about society:

When you give to society, society gives back.

That is society’s best kept secret.


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